suthpaw22
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I posted the following on my facebook profile around lunchtime yesterday and got a lot of good responses and advice. I'm going to paste it here hoping to also get some valuable feedback.
Thanks in advance,
Tony
I DON'T POST MUCH ON HERE, BUT I WANTED TO SHARE THIS. I WOULD LOVE FOR EVERYONE TO TAKE A MIN TO READ THIS AND GIVE ME THERE THOUGHTS. I WAS CALLED EARLIER IN THE WEEK AND ASKED TO COACH MY SONS T-BALL TEAM. I ACCEPTED OF COURSE. IT HAS BEEN A DREAM OF MINE TO COACH MY SON IN BASEBALL LIKE MY DAD COACHED ME SINCE MY EX AND I FOUND OUT WE WERE HAVING A BOY! THE COMISSIONER CALLED ME BACK THURSDAY NIGHT REGRETFULLY INFORMING ME THAT HIS MOTHER ASKED FOR ME NOT TO COACH HIM. I WAS VERY SURPRISED BY THIS BECAUSE JUST A FEW MONTHS AGO I WAS ASKED TO COACH HIS SOCCER TEAM, SHE WAS THE TEAM MOM, AND EVERYTHING WAS FINE. I TOLD HIM I WAS GOING TO FIND OUT WHAT THE PROBLEM WAS AND CALL HIM BACK. I CALLED MY EX AND SHE ASSURED ME THAT SHE KNEW NOTHING ABOUT IT AND DIDN'T HAVE AN ISSUE WITH IT. I CALLED THE COMMISIONER BACK AND TOLD HIM THAT THERE WAS JUST A MISUNDERSTANDING AND SHE DIDN'T HAVE AN ISSUE WITH IT. HE THEN TOLD ME "TONY, SHE CALLED ME PERSONALLY". I WASN'T QUITE SURE WHAT TO SAY. HE SAID HE WOULD CALL HER AND ASK HER ABOUT IT AGAIN AND WE GOT OFF THE PHONE. I CALLED HER RIGHT BACK AND TOLD HER WHAT I HAD LEARNED. SHE VERY BLUNTLY TOLD ME AGAIN SHE HAD NO IDEA WHAT I WAS TALKING ABOUT AND DIDN'T EVEN KNOW WHO THE COMMISIONER WAS. I GOT A CALL LAST NIGHT FROM THE COMISSIONER AGAIN SAYING HE WAS SO SORRY, BUT SHE WAS STILL SAYING THAT SHE DID NOT WANT ME INVOLVED WITH HIS TEAM. HE ASKED IF I WOULD STILL COACH A TEAM AND I TOLD HIM I COULDN'T WITHOUT MY SON. HE UNDERSTOOD AND WE ENDED OUR CALL. I CALLED MY EX BACK AND SHE DIDN'T ANSWERE SO I LEFT A MESSAGE FOR HER TO CALL ME. IN THE MEAN TIME I SPOKE WITH SEVERAL FRIENDS AND EVERYONE WAS IN AGGREEMENT THAT THIS WAS RIDICULOUS. SHE FINALLY CCALLED ME BACK AND I ASKED HER WHAT IN THE WORLD WAS GOING ON AND WHAT WAS THE ISSUE? AFTER A LONG PAUSE SHE REPLIED THAT MY TIME WITH OUR SON WAS MINE, BUT I WAS NOT GOING TO BE RUNNING EVERYTHING! SHE SAID ITS JUST ALL TO CONVENIENT THAT WE SIGN HIM UP TO PLAY BALL AND YOU TURN UP AS THE COACH. I REPLIED THAT YES, IT HAS ALWAYS BEEN A DREAM OF MINE TO COACH OUR SON. NOBODY KNOWS THAT BETTER THAN YOU, BUT THEY ASKED ME, I DIDN'T ASK THEM. I BEGGED HER TO RECONSIDER. THAT OUR SON AND I WERE BOTH REALLY EXCITED AND IN NO WAY WAS HER DOING THIS IN HIS BEST INTEREST. SHE DID NOT ARGUE THIS, INSTEAD PUT OUR MISTAKES OF THE PAST BACK ON ME. I REMINDED HER THAT WE BOTH MADE MISTAKES AND I REGRETTED EVERY DAY HOW THINGS TRANSPIRED BETWEEN US, BUT ALL WE COULD DO IS BE THE BEST PARENTS POSSIBLE FOR OUR LITTLE BOY. SHE DIDN'T RESPOND, SO I ASKED HER AGAIN TO RECONSIDER AND SHE SAID SHE WOULDNT. I REMINDED HER THAT I AM A GOOD FATHER AND I WAS GOING TO ALWAYS BE A PART OF OUR SONS LIFE. SHE SAID I NEVER SAID YOU WEREN'T A GOOD FATHER. I ASKED HER HOW I WAS SUPPOSE TO TELL OUR LITTLE BOY THAT I WASN'T GOING TO COACH HIM NOW AFTER HIM AND I WERE BOTH SO EXCITED ABOUT IT. HER RESPONSE WAS I SHOULDN'T HAVE TOLD HIM. WTF? WHY WOULDN'T I CELEBRATE WITH MY SON ABOUT SOMETHING WE CAN DO TOGETHER. IN CLOSING, I AM ASKING EVERYONE FOR THERE INPUT ON THIS
Thanks in advance,
Tony
I DON'T POST MUCH ON HERE, BUT I WANTED TO SHARE THIS. I WOULD LOVE FOR EVERYONE TO TAKE A MIN TO READ THIS AND GIVE ME THERE THOUGHTS. I WAS CALLED EARLIER IN THE WEEK AND ASKED TO COACH MY SONS T-BALL TEAM. I ACCEPTED OF COURSE. IT HAS BEEN A DREAM OF MINE TO COACH MY SON IN BASEBALL LIKE MY DAD COACHED ME SINCE MY EX AND I FOUND OUT WE WERE HAVING A BOY! THE COMISSIONER CALLED ME BACK THURSDAY NIGHT REGRETFULLY INFORMING ME THAT HIS MOTHER ASKED FOR ME NOT TO COACH HIM. I WAS VERY SURPRISED BY THIS BECAUSE JUST A FEW MONTHS AGO I WAS ASKED TO COACH HIS SOCCER TEAM, SHE WAS THE TEAM MOM, AND EVERYTHING WAS FINE. I TOLD HIM I WAS GOING TO FIND OUT WHAT THE PROBLEM WAS AND CALL HIM BACK. I CALLED MY EX AND SHE ASSURED ME THAT SHE KNEW NOTHING ABOUT IT AND DIDN'T HAVE AN ISSUE WITH IT. I CALLED THE COMMISIONER BACK AND TOLD HIM THAT THERE WAS JUST A MISUNDERSTANDING AND SHE DIDN'T HAVE AN ISSUE WITH IT. HE THEN TOLD ME "TONY, SHE CALLED ME PERSONALLY". I WASN'T QUITE SURE WHAT TO SAY. HE SAID HE WOULD CALL HER AND ASK HER ABOUT IT AGAIN AND WE GOT OFF THE PHONE. I CALLED HER RIGHT BACK AND TOLD HER WHAT I HAD LEARNED. SHE VERY BLUNTLY TOLD ME AGAIN SHE HAD NO IDEA WHAT I WAS TALKING ABOUT AND DIDN'T EVEN KNOW WHO THE COMMISIONER WAS. I GOT A CALL LAST NIGHT FROM THE COMISSIONER AGAIN SAYING HE WAS SO SORRY, BUT SHE WAS STILL SAYING THAT SHE DID NOT WANT ME INVOLVED WITH HIS TEAM. HE ASKED IF I WOULD STILL COACH A TEAM AND I TOLD HIM I COULDN'T WITHOUT MY SON. HE UNDERSTOOD AND WE ENDED OUR CALL. I CALLED MY EX BACK AND SHE DIDN'T ANSWERE SO I LEFT A MESSAGE FOR HER TO CALL ME. IN THE MEAN TIME I SPOKE WITH SEVERAL FRIENDS AND EVERYONE WAS IN AGGREEMENT THAT THIS WAS RIDICULOUS. SHE FINALLY CCALLED ME BACK AND I ASKED HER WHAT IN THE WORLD WAS GOING ON AND WHAT WAS THE ISSUE? AFTER A LONG PAUSE SHE REPLIED THAT MY TIME WITH OUR SON WAS MINE, BUT I WAS NOT GOING TO BE RUNNING EVERYTHING! SHE SAID ITS JUST ALL TO CONVENIENT THAT WE SIGN HIM UP TO PLAY BALL AND YOU TURN UP AS THE COACH. I REPLIED THAT YES, IT HAS ALWAYS BEEN A DREAM OF MINE TO COACH OUR SON. NOBODY KNOWS THAT BETTER THAN YOU, BUT THEY ASKED ME, I DIDN'T ASK THEM. I BEGGED HER TO RECONSIDER. THAT OUR SON AND I WERE BOTH REALLY EXCITED AND IN NO WAY WAS HER DOING THIS IN HIS BEST INTEREST. SHE DID NOT ARGUE THIS, INSTEAD PUT OUR MISTAKES OF THE PAST BACK ON ME. I REMINDED HER THAT WE BOTH MADE MISTAKES AND I REGRETTED EVERY DAY HOW THINGS TRANSPIRED BETWEEN US, BUT ALL WE COULD DO IS BE THE BEST PARENTS POSSIBLE FOR OUR LITTLE BOY. SHE DIDN'T RESPOND, SO I ASKED HER AGAIN TO RECONSIDER AND SHE SAID SHE WOULDNT. I REMINDED HER THAT I AM A GOOD FATHER AND I WAS GOING TO ALWAYS BE A PART OF OUR SONS LIFE. SHE SAID I NEVER SAID YOU WEREN'T A GOOD FATHER. I ASKED HER HOW I WAS SUPPOSE TO TELL OUR LITTLE BOY THAT I WASN'T GOING TO COACH HIM NOW AFTER HIM AND I WERE BOTH SO EXCITED ABOUT IT. HER RESPONSE WAS I SHOULDN'T HAVE TOLD HIM. WTF? WHY WOULDN'T I CELEBRATE WITH MY SON ABOUT SOMETHING WE CAN DO TOGETHER. IN CLOSING, I AM ASKING EVERYONE FOR THERE INPUT ON THIS