SickBiker,
There should be some resistance in the spark plug circuit. In a wasted spark system, the spark plugs are in series, so you could use one resistor plug (the Iridium) and one non resistor.
As far as the plugs working the same, even when they are matched, they do not work the same because the spark plug with the positive wire needs 40% more voltage to work properly. That's one of the main reasons that a dual output coil in a wasted spark system is a "High Performance" coil. It's really not for High Performance. It's just that the positive plug needs a higher voltage.
Ford motor company recognizes this phenomena by provided one spark plug in each pair with the Platinum on the tip and the other spark plug with Platinum on the ground electrode to equalize their performance, but it still does not compensate for the fact that the hot tip on the positive plug is really not beneficial. It's all part of the price we pay for the wasted spark system, which is simpler and cheaper than a coil per plug, which the auto industry is now going to wards with their coil on plug systems to eliminate the wasted spark penalty.